‘The System’

When you get married there are lots of things you need to consider. One such thing is if you’re going to change your name or not.

I’ve chosen TO change my name, and so I’ve had to go through the process of filling in endless forms, requesting certificates, getting them copied and signed, and sending things away. It’s a hassle.

Before I had to do all of this a silly little part of me thought that all government sectors might actually use the same database.

I register my marriage with the Department of Births, Deaths and Marriages. I was Talia Rodgers, daughter of Melody Rodgers (nee Gibson) and Graham Rodgers (not Rodges like the put on our marriage certificate). I have married Luke Carbis, son of Paul Carbis, and Marie-Louise Carbis (nee Fabri). So why does no one else know that?

Why do I have to get a certificate copied and signed by a justice of the peace, and then fill out a form and send it all away to the commision of child safety? Can’t someone just tell them that I changed my name?

Or lets say that not all people change their name when they get married, and so therefore you can’t just assume these thigns. Fair enough. So when does my name actually change? For over a month now I have been living with the name on my licence Talia Rodgers and the name on my bank cards Talia Carbis, except on the other bank’s card… that’s Talia Rodgers. My passport- Rodgers. My house is rented as Talia Carbis (actually rented as Talia Corbis), at one job I’m Talia Carbis, and at the other I’m Talia Rodgers. At the video store I’m Talia Rodgers, same with Medicare, but at Uni I’m Talia Rodgers. When I teach R.E I’m Talia Carbis, and when I teach in a prac school I’m… both.

WHAT IS MY NAME?! And when does it officially change?

I’m taking it that my name changes when the name on my license changes, and I did that just last Friday. New photo etc, all very exciting. So this is an official thing I’ve changed my name on. My licence, a Category A form of I.D. Shouldn’t they tell someone? I could live the rest of my life with two identities. At the moment I am with two banks and use two different names. I am basically living with two different names. With a bit of lying I could easily work two jobs and then only do tax for one of them or get two credit cards, and never reply to one of them. I could do all sorts of things. Has anyone thought of that before?

I guess people might say, “But I’m glad they don’t know everything. I don’t want the government to know things without me telling them”.

I say to those people, “YOU change my name on everything then, because I’m sick of it”. And do you know what makes it worse? I’ve changed what I want my name to be. I want it to be Talia Sue Rodgers Carbis, Sue and Rodgers being middle names. But I’ve also decided that that can just be my little secret with myself, and I can write it on things and no one will have to know it’s not official.

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