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Buy something/anything!

March 18th, 2010

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Sometimes I just need to buy something (anything). Does anyone else feel this way?

Luckily when I got the urge on Monday I had some Uni supplies I needed to get. *phew*. I also took the opportunity to get some things that I just liked. But that’s what spending money is FOR! Mind you, I bought two magazines on Monday, and haven’t actually looked through either one yet! I just have no time.

But back onto the subject of NEEDING to buy things… for a while there it was pretty bad, and when I was younger (read: 12-20) it was more serious then it is now. ALL my money left my hands every week on movies, mostly on CDs and food. This would have been okay if my pocket money was like $5, but it wasn’t, it was quite a bit more then that, and I was meant to spend it on new clothes and anything else I might actually NEED. You can imagine that during some of that time I was working full time, so yeah, that’s a fair amount of spending money! BUT I learnt my lesson, and felt a lot of buyer’s remorse.

Now that I’m thinking about it, I have been pretty crap with money always, and it only really stopped because I got married and Luke would get angry if I spent the money that was OURS. He’s never actually GOT angry at me (though I’ll tell you, it has been the other way ’round before!), I’m just pretty certain in my head that he WOULD get angry at me if I did.

I have been in trouble with my husband before. He has this crazy way of looking at you and not saying anything that makes you feel so quilty for what you’ve done. And he only brings it out on VERY special occasions, like when you’ve done something really stupidly selfish and wrong, so that kinda makes it worse, because it doesn’t just happen for anything, only the really bad things you did…

I’ve sort of made him sound like a bit of a bully, but he’s not. OBVIOUSLY you know that, because I already tell you all the super amazing things he does. And this is actually whole ‘getting angry at me ‘ thing is a positive thing too- because sometimes, we just have to face the facts, and the facts are that I am crap with money. There I said it. I imagine this is the feeling one has when they admit their problem at a support group. Without Luke I would have so many scrapbooking and craft supplies that I would have no money for food or to pay the gas bill… And I wouldn’t be going to EUROPE in October either!

I haven’t told you that exciting news officially yet, have I?! Our flights and tour are booked, and we’re leaving after Carmen‘s wedding (on the Monday). I shall let you know more details closer to the date!

So yeah, I still get the urge to spend things, and sometimes I do, but I make sure it’s with my personal finances, not the joint moneys… I would really love to hear from you in the comments if you suffer the same types of urges! Do you let them run free, free to be wild, or do you keep them under tight control with systems and rules, and restrictions? OR are you just super with money -what is your secret!?!